The Perfect Equation
The Perfect Equation: Friendship
The age old song, make new friends,but keep the old, one is silver and the other gold...keeps running through my mind. I'm normally a silver gal, but when it comes to friends I stick with gold. Each one of my friends is as precious as gold. I'm well adorned with "gold." If friendship was an Olympic sport, I'd have many gold metals, not awarded to me, but for me, for having them as a friend.
So here is my dilemma: when is a friend a friend? At what point does a person cross the "friendship line?" At some point a person moves from being an acquaintance to a friend. What qualifies the linear movement on the timeline moving from silver to gold?
I feel like some friends start out as gold and others stay silver. Some may be more of a bronze, if you will.
We use the term "friend" so loosely these days; Facebook and social media has made it so easy to "friend" someone. I disagree, calling a person a friend doesn't happen by pushing a button. I'd say it's more a series of buttons that get pushed to work the friendship equation.
Some equations are simply a friend of a friend=a new friend. Some friends it's been crying+ hurt + hug = friend. Others it's been "not someone I would typically pick as a friend" + time= friend. Really I haven't figured out an a+b=c equation for a friend. It's not a science and to "my best calculations" it's a problem. Every time I move and meet new people, I struggle with calling a person a friend.
I love friends, I want to call everyone a friend. I have many unexpected friends reaching across the globe. I have much anticipated and awaited friends. I have "built in friends," and I have sympathy friends (those who befriend me because they 'have' to)! I have family friends...and friends that are family. My sisters are my obligatory friends (sorry)! Childhood friends, the ones who've known you forever, but don't KNOW you now. Best friends who I've done life with, long term, short term...but no amount of time could alter our friendship. Short term friends who are in it for the long haul. Tall, skinny, quiet, loud, somber, silly...
Ultimately there is only one perfect friend, Jesus. He knows me better on my worst days and knows my worst, on my better days. I pray and strive to be a friend like Jesus. I'm not anywhere close to being a perfect friend. I'm perfectly imperfect and am so grateful for the many who've taken a chance on me and shown me grace for my sorry attempt at friendship.
I'm filled with gratitude to the many I call FRIEND. I think I figured out the perfect equation: you + me= friend. What I have with YOU is special and unique! Thank you for being a friend (YOU know who you are!)
The age old song, make new friends,but keep the old, one is silver and the other gold...keeps running through my mind. I'm normally a silver gal, but when it comes to friends I stick with gold. Each one of my friends is as precious as gold. I'm well adorned with "gold." If friendship was an Olympic sport, I'd have many gold metals, not awarded to me, but for me, for having them as a friend.
So here is my dilemma: when is a friend a friend? At what point does a person cross the "friendship line?" At some point a person moves from being an acquaintance to a friend. What qualifies the linear movement on the timeline moving from silver to gold?
I feel like some friends start out as gold and others stay silver. Some may be more of a bronze, if you will.
We use the term "friend" so loosely these days; Facebook and social media has made it so easy to "friend" someone. I disagree, calling a person a friend doesn't happen by pushing a button. I'd say it's more a series of buttons that get pushed to work the friendship equation.
Some equations are simply a friend of a friend=a new friend. Some friends it's been crying+ hurt + hug = friend. Others it's been "not someone I would typically pick as a friend" + time= friend. Really I haven't figured out an a+b=c equation for a friend. It's not a science and to "my best calculations" it's a problem. Every time I move and meet new people, I struggle with calling a person a friend.
I love friends, I want to call everyone a friend. I have many unexpected friends reaching across the globe. I have much anticipated and awaited friends. I have "built in friends," and I have sympathy friends (those who befriend me because they 'have' to)! I have family friends...and friends that are family. My sisters are my obligatory friends (sorry)! Childhood friends, the ones who've known you forever, but don't KNOW you now. Best friends who I've done life with, long term, short term...but no amount of time could alter our friendship. Short term friends who are in it for the long haul. Tall, skinny, quiet, loud, somber, silly...
Ultimately there is only one perfect friend, Jesus. He knows me better on my worst days and knows my worst, on my better days. I pray and strive to be a friend like Jesus. I'm not anywhere close to being a perfect friend. I'm perfectly imperfect and am so grateful for the many who've taken a chance on me and shown me grace for my sorry attempt at friendship.
I'm filled with gratitude to the many I call FRIEND. I think I figured out the perfect equation: you + me= friend. What I have with YOU is special and unique! Thank you for being a friend (YOU know who you are!)
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